It’s a fascinating fact that raises questions. When you discover that a man is leading a double life, you immediately think divorce is inevitable. And yet… in reality, many unfaithful husbands prefer to stay with their official wife. But why? Fear, attachment, comfort? Let’s explore together the sometimes baffling reasons for this love paradox, which is more common than we think.
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The fear of losing everything … and of the unknown
The first obstacle is often a great fear of the consequences. Separation from one’s wife is far more than just a romantic break: It may also mean the loss of children, possessions, social circles, and even a part of one’s identity.
Some men would rather remain in a fragile but familiar balance than expose themselves to uncertainty. In their eyes, it’s better to maintain the image of a united family… even if that means feigning it every day.
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The comfort of a double life… comforting for him
Admittedly, some men view infidelity as a selfish but comforting compromise. They enjoy the best of both worlds: the security of home, the structure of a routine life, and the excitement of adventure.
In this situation, divorce would mean breaking the fragile balance they have built, and they put off that prospect as long as possible.
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Yes, he still loves his wife… but differently
It may seem paradoxical, but many men claim to truly love their wives, yet are unfaithful to them. For them, love and sexuality are two separate spheres.
They see adventure as an outlet, a way to fill a void or escape certain frustrations without questioning their commitment to their official partner. A complex logic, however, that is very present in certain marital dynamics.
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His wife is his foundation, his landmark, his story
When a relationship lasts for many years, it’s much more than just a love story. For many men, their wife is the one who has accompanied them through all the important phases of their lives: their first successes, their exams, starting a family…
A breakup isn’t just about starting a new chapter, it’s about leaving an entire part of your personal journey behind. And for some, that’s simply unacceptable.
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